Self-Control // Fruits of the Spirit //

I am bursting with joy to share this post with you. It was written by one of my closest friends and mentors. She writes so eloquently, and I look up to her in so many ways. She runs her blog called Esther Reborn, which is absolutely incredible. You should definitely go check out her blog here. Tabs, you're amazing in countless ways, and I love you so much. 

Hi there! My name is Tabitha. I am beyond impressed and stunned with what Kingdom Love has become. Rachael has poured her whole heart into this blog and I am more than honored to be apart of it.

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I am in love with this series that is based on the fruits of the Spirit. Although, when Rachael asked me to write on self-control I was completely lost. What do I say about self-control? What do I write? Why couldn't she have given me something like love or faithfulness?

Now I am sitting here on my laptop, staring out my window, aimlessly wondering: "What is self-control? How do we earn self-control?


SELF-CONTROL: "Physical and emotional self-mastery, particularly in situations of intense provocation or temptation."

Self control is standing in the way of temptation and saying I am better than this because my Father says so. Self control is being faced with sin and turning the other way. Self control is honoring God, yourself and everyone around you.

"A person without self-control is like a house with its doors and windows knocked out." -Proverbs 25:28 (MSG)

Personally, I believe that self control is the most difficult spiritual fruit to process. Self control is a journey. It's a process. Living in a fallen world, it's something you will be challenged with daily. God never promised easy and this is the purest example of that.

Without self-control, we are losing love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, and goodness. We can't have the rest of the fruits without having this one.


Self control develops when we give up control. We cannot gain self-control until we seek the One who possesses all control. 

When we submit to Jesus, that is the moment we gain self-control. We have to be willing to look to God and humbly confess that we can't do life alone. It's as simple as that.

"For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love, and self-discipline." - 2 Timothy 1:7 (NIV)

God has already given you the power of self-control. Seek Him and walk in it.